Dear Mr. Man…

March 6, 2009

Fatherhood Friday:The Daddy Daughter Dance

Filed under: Fatherhood Fridays — P. J. Easter @ 12:20 am

 

 

dsc02323Q: Dear Mr. Man,

I like to do special “Daddy/Daughter Dates” with my little girl. Can you share something special that you and your daughter do?

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A: There are so many things that I enjoy doing  with my little girl. Bae is an avid sports fan (moreso than the boy when it comes to watching), so we enjoy hanging out and watching our local sports teams together. With college sports we enjoy talking trash to each other. I support the Texas A&M Aggies, she roots for the Texas Longhorns (I don’t know where I went wrong on that one). She likes it when I take her shopping (of course). She also loves going to Rocket City Fun Station and Joe’s Crab Shack.  We love to cook together. She seasons the meat and I grill it (think of the “Tim ‘The Toolman’ Taylor” noise at this point). However, there is one event that we have done every year since she was six years old. The Daddy Daughter Dance.

For those of you that may not be familiar with this, many churches and private schools host this event which is designed to build upon the bonds of the father/daughter relationship. I, like most fathers I know, also use this event as another opportunity to teach our girls how they should be treated by when they start dating.  Bae knows not to get in or out of the car unless the young man is standing on the other side of the door to open it (I forgot once and she sat in the car until I remembered). Communication is reinforced. She is to talk with respect and to be spoken to in the same way. She learned early on not to ever be coerced into doing something she doen’t want to do. As for the dance itself, there is hardly any dancing being done by us. She tells me that she is shy (I don’t see it at home). One maybe two dances at the end is all I normally get. As she gets older she is more concerned about being embarrassed in front of her friends. And that’s okay. Because for that special evening, it is just me and her. And I don’t know who loves it more.

She’s eleven now and I have to work harder now to find the common interests between us. I know I need to be more interested in Claire’s and The Limited Too and Hannah Montana than she needs to be interested in the things I like.  At some point, she will become interested in boys and Adi and my lives will be turned upside down. Even so, when does begin to go out, I hope she will remember Daddy as her first date and the lessons learned.

Mr. Man

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19 Comments »

  1. Our daddy-daughter dance turning out to be a twirling contest, very fun.

    Comment by Craig — March 6, 2009 @ 8:15 am | Reply

    • @Craig. Do you play the game where you see who can get the dizziest the fastest? Also lots of fun.

      Comment by Mr. Man — March 6, 2009 @ 1:57 pm | Reply

  2. Awwwwww. It sounds like you have built a rock solid foundation with her.

    Comment by Weaselmomma — March 6, 2009 @ 10:41 am | Reply

    • @Weaselmomma. Thanks!

      Comment by Mr. Man — March 6, 2009 @ 1:54 pm | Reply

  3. My little girl is only 3 weeks old, but I think something like that sounds awesome. I also plan to make sure my little girl knows how a man is supposed to treat a woman and hopefully won’t take any crap from guys!

    Great post!

    Comment by New-Dad-Blog — March 6, 2009 @ 11:33 am | Reply

    • @New-Dad-Blog. Wow! You are starting out on one of the most fantastic rides of your life. Enjoy it fully!

      Comment by Mr. Man — March 6, 2009 @ 1:56 pm | Reply

  4. Great post. Sounds like you are teaching her well. I don’t envy you on the whole dating boys thing. If I have a girl in the future I probably won’t handle that too well.

    Comment by Otter Thomas — March 6, 2009 @ 1:15 pm | Reply

    • @Otter Thomas. She has not expressed an interest in boys, yet. But I joke about having the proverbial “cleaning the shotgun while on the back porch” conversation with the boys that try to date her. Wait, who is joking? 🙂

      Comment by Mr. Man — March 6, 2009 @ 1:53 pm | Reply

  5. happy fatherhood friday, very nice post. Im grateful I dont have girls, i wouldnt let them out of the house till they are 30 yrs old.

    Comment by john — March 6, 2009 @ 6:50 pm | Reply

  6. That is amazing that you two share such an awesome bond. I can’t wait for the daddy daughter dances. (Right now we just have the daddy daughter smack-daddy-in-the-face-in-excitements)

    Comment by ShankRabbit — March 6, 2009 @ 8:39 pm | Reply

  7. How awesome. She’s one lucky girl to have a father like you!

    My daughter is already going on daddy/daughter dates, and she’s only 11 months old. 🙂

    Comment by *Isabella* — March 6, 2009 @ 10:16 pm | Reply

  8. @*Isabella*. That’s great! You can never start too soon.

    Comment by Mr. Man — March 6, 2009 @ 10:53 pm | Reply

  9. Well, we try to take our daughters out individually once a quarter. Usually, I take them either fishing or to the driving range. I like to include them in past times that I think can build character and bring us closer together. Great post and a great daughter you got there.

    Comment by Joe — March 7, 2009 @ 3:16 pm | Reply

  10. great post…sounds like there’s a real strong daddy/daughter relationship. dads sure have an impact on their daughters. did you see my fatherhood friday post from last week?? i know that even when dads may not get us later in life, they’re always there for us. 🙂 wish my ex would do daddy/daughter dates when they’re visiting (we live in diff states), but he only seems to be concerned w the newest daughter (he and his gf had a baby over a yr ago).

    Comment by ciara — March 7, 2009 @ 3:19 pm | Reply

    • @ciara. I did see your post from last week. It reminded me that how big or small my role is in her life is entirely up to me.

      Comment by Mr. Man — March 9, 2009 @ 9:42 pm | Reply

  11. I can’t wait for our first daddy daughter dance. I’m sure I’ll embarras myself over and OVER again. But it will be worth it to spend some time with my little girl.

    I really like that you turned this into a learning experience. This is a great idea!

    Comment by Super Mega Dad — March 9, 2009 @ 4:56 pm | Reply

    • @Super Mega Dad. It’ll be okay to embarrass yourself at times for her. Part of the bonding is letting her see you as the “goober” sometimes.

      Comment by Mr. Man — March 9, 2009 @ 9:44 pm | Reply

  12. Bravo Mr. Man:

    Another dad that understands the importance of time shared. Your daughter will remember those times the rest of her life. Many times as adults we forget that for them (our children) it’s the small things that last the longest and mean the most.

    Peace,
    Thomas

    Comment by Rites Inc. — March 9, 2009 @ 9:31 pm | Reply

    • @Thomas. I hope she remembers. Thanks for your comment.

      Comment by Mr. Man — March 9, 2009 @ 9:45 pm | Reply


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